Seek truth beyond tradition, definition or image
Just who exactly is the crone?? Many traditions divide a woman’s life into three stages; the maiden, the mother and the crone. Having passed through the first two stages, I have now entered into the third stage; the crone or the elder. I am here to speak to that third stage of woman’s life.
It is, perhaps the most difficult stage to enter productively and with a positive attitude, because of the values our society puts on youth. Even the mother is supposed to act youthful, though it may be contradictory to the immense amount of tiring work a mother has to do. I look at our magazines stressing makeup tips, how to be sexy for your man, perfect meals in half an hour. How sexy do you feel after a full day of work outside the home , followed by a second full day’s work at home caring for family but in half the time of the day job. A maiden has time for this, often a mother does not.
A maiden has time to cook a lovely mean since her only job after the full day at home or in the office leaves time over for that. This applies whether she has just entered maiden hood as a teen or after she has entered the workforce but is not yet a mother. And makeup, well getting children off to babysitter or school or where ever plus getting ready to jet off yourself does not leave much time for fancy makeup. Not to mention the cost of makeup these days! But, I have mentioned it!!
But, I am concerned with the crone. She has passed through maidenhood and sometimes motherhood. One becomes a crone whether or not one has become a mother in between the first and the third stage. Crone comes with time and the wisdom one accumulates during that time. Somehow just living, imparts its own form of wisdom. Gathering together the experiences of a life spent can fill a full bag of wisdom if only we take the time to view it . Problem is, our society often still pushes the image of youth on this stage too. There are botox injections . There is a raft of foods that pretend to slow the aging process, remove the wrinkles or tighten the muscles. There is a list of exercises that claim to bring one back to youthful vitality. And the medications!! Well there are so many of those that will restore you sufficiently that jogging with a three year old or sailing to mexico with grown grandchildren is on a par with a delightful Sunday afternoon stroll for the new energetic you. The drug companies are keeping pharmacies busy seven days a week. And people with near to empty wallets.
And I want to counter these cultural mores. I do not believe that they are either real or supportive of who we are as women! They do not move with the flow of a natural life. They fight the natural aging process and deny our inner beauty and wealth. The universe ages. Why would I want to go contrary to my Mother the Earth. She nourishes and supports me. She loves me!! I do not want to grow counter to the universe, I want to grow with it. For in the aging and changing process is my spiritual progress, my fulfillment . In living each stage to its fullness is my greatness!! And that includes the stage of the crone.
Next blog I will be talking more about the role of the crone in indigenous culture and the importance the elder held in some of those cultures. Join me for the ride!!